How To Enter Your Soft Girl Era (7 Easy Habits)
I almost titled this: How To Exit Your Girl Boss Era & Enter Your Soft Girl Era.
Let’s be real—the girl boss era has left millions of us burnt out, exhausted, and running on iced coffee instead of actual energy. Don’t get me wrong, I’m all for breaking barriers and chasing big dreams. But at some point, the hustle turns into survival mode, and that’s not the flex we thought it was.
If your hormones are out of whack, your to-do list never ends, and you can’t remember the last time you felt genuinely at peace—it might be time to enter your Soft Girl Era.
I was even going to throw in a jab about how outrageous it is that our society is built around a male hormone cycle, which resets every 24 hours… just in time to be at the office at 8 a.m. again the next day! I bet they’ve never walked out of a shift with a zap to their right abdomen with every step they took (thanks to a rupturing ovarian cyst mid-workday). If only they could imagine what fun the luteal phase can be!
All humor aside, there’s actual science behind this: The way work schedules, productivity expectations, and societal norms are structured tends to align with male hormonal fluctuations—which follow a strict daily rhythm—rather than the more complex, monthly cycle that affects women.
Okay, I still think it’s outrageous that our society is built upon a 24-hour hormonal cycle instead of a 28-day one for women. A happy medium would’ve been nice!
But I don’t want to bash the girl boss era. I’m grateful for the women who move mountains and break barriers for the rest of us. I’m grateful for my girl boss era and everything I learned from it. I just don’t believe everyone has the capacity to sustain that level of hustle indefinitely—because life, circumstances, and personal needs vary for all of us.
So, if you’re in your girl boss era—I am cheering you on!
However, if your hormones are in shambles, your to-do list never seems to end, and you can’t remember the last time you actually felt good in your body… you’re probably not in your girl boss era anymore. You’re in your burnt-out era—and trust me, there’s nothing aspirational about that.
Are you ready to enter your soft girl era?
Before we dive in, I want to emphasize that this transformation has multiple layers. Some parts of this journey will require rewiring your mindset through deep self-reflection. Other parts will involve nurturing your physical body with simple yet impactful daily habits. And then, some parts are just pure fun—because letting yourself enjoy life is one of the best ways to counteract burnout and soften your energy.
Here are 7 easy habits to start welcoming more softness into your life:
1. Accept help – You don’t have to do it all on your own.
There’s no gold star for doing everything alone. Hyper-independence isn’t strength—it’s often a response to past conditioning. Whether it’s delegating a task, saying “yes” when someone offers to help, or even outsourcing something small, allowing yourself to receive is a core part of softness.
2. Create something – Slowing down helps you reconnect.
You don’t need to be an artist to enjoy the act of creation. Painting, baking, journaling, arranging flowers, playing with clay, or even just doodling on a napkin—creating for the sake of creating brings you into the present moment. It shifts your energy from doing to simply being.
3. Stop rushing everything – There is time.
You don’t have to squeeze productivity into every waking hour. The world won’t end if you take a break, let something be good enough, or actually enjoy a task instead of racing to the finish line. The soft girl era is about moving with intention rather than moving in a frenzy.
4. Plant something – Start small and watch it grow.
Even if it’s just a lemon seed from your fridge, nurturing something from the ground up is wildly rewarding. (And if you’re a notorious plant killer, try a pothos—they thrive on neglect.) Watching something grow over time reminds you to trust the process—a key lesson in embracing softness.
5. Don’t complain – Your words shape your reality.
This one isn’t about toxic positivity. It’s about awareness. Complaining trains your brain to focus on what’s wrong rather than what’s good. Instead of saying, “Ugh, I have to do this,” try reframing it as, “I get to do this.” Small shifts in language can completely shift your mindset.
6. Pay attention to nature – The world is always speaking to you.
There’s something deeply soft about noticing. The way the air feels before a storm. The first buds of spring. A butterfly landing near you. Even the tiny spider in your shower (who, let’s be honest, is just trying to live its best life). When you slow down and observe, you feel more connected—to nature, to life, and to yourself.
7. Learn the basics of self-care – Master the foundation before adding the extras.
A 10-step skincare routine and aesthetic bubble baths are fun, but the real magic of self-care is in the fundamentals: quality sleep, hydration, nourishing food, movement, and deep breathing. Once you have those down, the extra self-care rituals feel even better.
"Looking back, I wish I had embraced my soft girl era sooner. The constant hustle kept me trapped in survival mode when I could have been thriving. So, if you're feeling the same way—what’s one thing you can do today to invite more softness into your life?"
Softness is a practice, not a destination.
This isn’t about abandoning ambition or letting go of your goals. The soft girl era is simply about pursuing them differently—in a way that feels good for your mind and body. You don’t have to be in survival mode to be successful.
So, what’s the first habit you’re going to start with? ✨ Drop a comment—I’d love to hear!